I wonder how one knows when something isn't right with one of their children. The wondering has consumed me for months, either for one child or the other. For the longest time the doctor was concerned P wasn't talking. At the time she was just one and he expected her to have a vocabulary of like 20 words and she basically said nothing. Prior to that visit I had not really been concerned. With a 4 year old sister she had someone to do and say for her. At her 18 month appointment the doctor had no concerns, he didn't really even inquire about her speech. She does of course say words at this point so to me she is brilliant for any 20 month old!!
My biggest concern at this point is F. She turned 4 years old in January and has been at the same church weekday school since she was one. This year really seems to be the year she needs to learn. When I went for her parent teacher conference in the winter her teacher expressed some concern about her ability to recognize numbers and colors. We have been working on the colors but the numbers just don't seem to be clicking for her. At first we thought she would just get it when she wanted but it still isn't happening. I talked to the director of the program and she recommended we have her evaluated for a learning disability. I am of course devastated or in denial, maybe both. The evaluation is through the public school system and they can't fit her in until June! I am going to check with our family doctor and see if he can recommend someone else. We aren't likely to put her in the public schools anyway but if she needs help I want her to have it now. At night when we try to work with her she is reduced to tears which breaks my heart. So I just wonder how do you know? Does she really need some type of help or has it just not clicked for her? Maybe she is still in her own princess world!
Park City Utah
3 years ago
I'm a new reader but just had to comment on your worry about your daughter...my 2 boys have learning disabilities....they are 11 and 22. The oldest, C, was diagnosed in 1st grade with an information processing deficit...he didn't really learn to read until 3rd grade...he is a space & satellite operator in the USAF...very sucessful!! My younger son, O, has a disability too. He finally was able to read in the 2nd grade and he reads on a 8th grade level now and he's in the 5th grade. My daughter, S, had a slow start also but was never diagnosed with anything and she still has trouble staying on task sometimes...but she is an honor roll student. All kids learn at a different rate and our school systems just want to pigeon hole them. The average kid is what they gear the curriculum for. It'd frustrating but you know your child better than anyone...get her tested if you think there is something going on...the earlier they receive help the better...good luck!
ReplyDeleteI found your blog through NMM link but I just wanted to give you *hugs* about this.
ReplyDeleteMy 4 yr old is like this a lot but it's getting better the older she gets. She gets frustrated very easily but i've found it is because she's a perfectionist.
I hope you find some breakthrough's soon!